Words Of Wedding Wisdom: BOOZE AT WEDDINGS

Welcome to this series of articles based on my popular book, “The A to Z of Wedding Wisdom” … a few juicy extracts that you might like, to give you a taster of what the book can do to help make your wedding (or a friend or relative’s wedding) superbly successful.

This time, we look at…

Alcoholic beverages: how much for the bridal party?

Many people believe that a couple of drinks loosen the tongue, relax inhibitions, decrease stress and allow you to perform better.

Whereas all that may be true, alcohol also makes you drunk.

Of course you may want to have a nip of brandy or a glass of champagne before you set out for your wedding, but whatever you do, don’t have any more than one or two units. It’s amazing how little alcohol it takes to affect your co-ordination and that’s a problem you really don’t need if you’re navigating your way up stone steps in an unfamiliarly long dress with a train behind you and a veil in front of your face.

Equally, bear in mind that during the ceremony and at the reception the whole bridal party needs to be able to concentrate on what is going on. A drunken best man can be a nightmare, especially when he gets up to speak.

Realistically there’s not a lot you can do to prevent people from over-drinking if they are absolutely insistent on doing so, but certainly you can make it crystal clear to everyone that you want them to stay sober until after the speeches.

Drunkenness at receptions is the source of many a funny story as well as an equal number of disaster tales. If you want to avoid the latter, ask a few reliable family members or friends to keep an eye open for anyone who is getting overly refreshed. That person should then be keenly encouraged to drink plenty of water or soft drinks and should be escorted out into the fresh air for a while – and if push comes to shove, escorted into a taxi home.

Drunken fights can occur quite easily at weddings, with booze exacerbating any existing tensions between individuals and reducing inhibitions at the same time. Once again, it pays to ask those reliable family members or friends to be on the watch for any “trouble” and to nip it in the bud should it start. You’re likely to know beforehand who among the guests are candidates for a disagreement; try to keep them well away from each other and warn others to be wary.

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  1. I’m glad I *didn’t* drink anything before my wedding. I was on a high that had nothing to do with booze or chemicals, and I wanted to enjoy every moment of that day.

    Also glad none of our guests got drunk at the reception–at least not drunk enough for me to notice!